Labor Pains

Labor Pains

Adoption is often called “paper pregnancy.” And the comparison is probably pretty accurate–there is excitement and expectancy coupled with fear and frustration. The waiting is difficult to endure–you just want your child here so you can hold her! Preparations and to-do lists mount. As you wait and work, you wonder how your life is going to change when she arrives, if you will be a good parent, and how you are going to afford this. While there are similarities, adoption is different from pregnancy in two major areas: paperwork and cost. When you and your spouse decide to have a child, no one is coming to ask you dozens of personal questions and minutely examine your health and home and finances to see if you will be fit parents. But...

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One Year Later

One Year Later

A year ago, today, I was a very different person. I struggled with fear and with what people thought about me.  I worried constantly about doing enough, being enough, finding enough to be truly happy. The abundant life, the peace, the joy I was promised seemed elusive. Things were, you know, fine. But I didn’t feel full of purpose. I had dreams that didn’t seem to make sense, and I felt a bit resigned to an ordinary existence. And then I stumbled across a crazy, far-fetched opportunity: invite a child into my home for four weeks. Open up my heart to a child without a mother and show her love. Step out of my comfort zone to show care for someone without comfort. Dig down deep to the bedrock of my beliefs to see if I trusted God enough to make this...

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